Our Core Values Define Who We Are
As we grow older, we tend to be influenced by a lot of external factors, such as our friends and family, the media, society, etc. Our thoughts, actions, and feelings are based on what we’re exposed to in our day-to-day lives.
I believe that we all have a set of values and principles that allow us to know what is right from wrong, what makes us feel guilty, and what makes us feel fulfilled. I call these our core values.
The activities we do, the material things we buy, and the people we interact with can either complement or conflict with our core values. Although we may not be aware of our core values yet, there most likely was a time when you have felt uncomfortable but don’t know why. Or you weren’t vibing with someone based on their “character,” but you couldn’t put it into words why you weren’t feeling a connection.
Your core values can help you take ownership of your thoughts, actions, and feelings. These core values are what make you unique.
Define and Stick by your Core Values
A core value is what you personally believe in and want to live by.
For example, I know that I don’t own that many possessions. I believe that every single item I own in my life needs to have a purpose, whether it’s functional or it brings joy. That is the core value that is translated from my minimalist lifestyle.
After realizing that I can define other core values and live by them, I searched within myself to understand what my other core values were.
Here’s a side-by-side comparison of how all of my answers to the questions above resulted in my core values:
Core Values
Answers to Questions
Own only what provides value through functionality or joy (Minimalism).
I prefer to put more value and gratitude on the fewer things that have provided value or happiness in my life.
Invest money first, then spend unapologetically.
I prefer to invest in myself first through retirement funds, avoid debt by paying off bills, and buying quality goods & services.
Prioritize mental health.
I believe that prioritizing mental health allows us to accomplish what we set out to do.
Fulfillment and creating impact are more important than more money.
I’m in search of fulfillment in my career instead of what pays the most.
Constantly challenge myself, learn, & iterate.
I believe that personal and career growth does not come from staying stagnant and comfortable.
All humans are unique & special.
Small acts of kindness go a long way.
Treat everyone with empathy, integrity, trust, respect.
I believe that every human is created equal, and we should be treating everyone as such.
Build a community and reject comparison & competition.
I believe that everyone has the opportunity to succeed, even in the same field. It’s not a competition.
For years, I’ve always tried to fit in. But I never felt like myself. I now know that there are people who really love me for who I am and that’s all that matters.
Be Authentic. Embrace Your True Character. Do not conform.
Living your intentional life revolves around your core values that define who you are. Your core values and principles may be influenced by others, but it is up to you to determine which ones you want to live by. Stick to them, no matter how difficult it may be.
It’s Time to Define Your Core Values
Now it’s your turn! If you’re ready to find out what your core values are, the following steps can help you get started on understanding what you believe in and what you want to live by.
Ask yourself the following questions:
What characteristics do I expect from a loved one that I also expect for myself? (e.g. Integrity, Respect, etc.)
What ideas and lifestyles do I believe in? (e.g. Minimalism, Eco-friendly, etc.)
What do I want to prioritize in my life? (e.g. My Family, Mental Health, etc.)
What do I value and look forward to throughout my days? (e.g. Slow mornings with coffee, time to meditate & journal, etc.)
What makes you feel uneasy that you don’t agree with or believe in? (e.g. racism, sexism, etc.)
Analyze your answers and see if there are any common themes or strong ideas you feel aligned with.
These questions are a great start, but continue to ask yourself more questions that may help you define your core values.
Write down your core values as sentences, not just a word. For example, instead of writing down a core value as “Integrity”, you can say, “Treat each person with integrity.”
Your core values should not change that much. These values are who you are, but the way you view things might change. Continuously learn from the people around you. Be open and aware when you start viewing life differently.
Don’t forget to place your list of core values in strategic areas to easily remind yourself about them, especially if you feel any uneasiness with a task, responsibility, or a friend.
When you’re ready to start living by your core values, click here to download the Notion template to reflect and align your life to your core values.